Different ways to propose
There are many ways to make the moment memorable and special, depending on your personalities and lifestyles.
Flowers are essential. Just in case you didn't already know, you're supposed to hand her the flowers
Many girls dream and imagine what this day will be like. Try to align your plans with her expectations. Therefore, as much as you just want to get it over with, this will be a representational of how you care about her feelings - and you should for the rest of your lives together. Below we have created a list of settings and styles of a marriage proposal. On your last dates its great to raise the topic of the proposal. 2 important things to confirm in advance,
Does she want a friend there? Often she'll have a close friend that she wants to be able to share a hug with.
Does she want it outdoors? Usually it is done in a peaceful environment, however not always indoors.
Once you have those 2 details confirmed, start planning on your own (other married friends give great advice) what elements both of you would enjoy.
Think about: the 4 senses. You want it to be an immersive memory forever for both of you.
Sight: Open space vs. closed space, sunset vs architecture, dim lighting vs bright lighting
Hear: Music vs silence, Nature vs ambiance
Taste: Champaign, cake vs cookies, bottled water vs juice
Smell: Trees vs. Water
The Next 2 important things for yourself are:
It has to be low stress, trust me; she doesn't want you to get all stressed-out over this.
You have to do be comfortable with the plan. (If she likes ponies, it doesn't mean you show up on a horse in Central Park).
Tips:
Set-up for a place to sit together afterwards.
If possible, try to get it on video. You both will enjoy watching it during your engagement period and beyond.
You only propose once. make her happy.
Going to the Ohel
Arrange for a driver to take you both together—it’s a special opportunity to share a quiet moment with your kallah before the news becomes public. Once it’s official, your WhatsApp will be buzzing, the energy will be high, and you’ll be busy socializing at your engagement party.
It's a beautiful and accepted practice if you want to sit at the Ohel and write a letter to the Rebbe together.
Posed photos should include at least one parent. As a chossid, it is important to honor the Rebbe's values by avoiding solo posed photos with your kallah. Stay mindful and uphold your hiskashrus even in moments of excitement.
Engagement Gifts
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Seforim
Try to find a quick maamar to recite at the L'chaim
It’s your responsibility to print the maamar and bring it along.
During Engagement
Once your wedding invitation is printed, take a copy to the Ohel and to the graves of your ancestors.